Cabbages, Cabbages

benkristenwedding 054 A year ago, we readied our home and garden for a celebration.  Ben and Kristen were to be married on November 1, and they chose to have their rehearsal dinner here.  Hurricane Ike had just done great damage to the Texas Gulf  Coast, and although many downed trees and fences dotted our neighborhood, we escaped with minimum damage.    So we picked up,  propped up,  and prepared for some new planting.   Along with pumpkins, pots of chrysanthemum, and burgundy snapdragons, we planted kale and cabbages to fill in bare spots,  giving  autumn flair and flavor to the back yard.  The dinner was delightful, their wedding was wonderful, and with the new Mr. and Mrs. off to Belize for their honeymoon, we continued to enjoy our little cabbages.

The bronze and russet mums quickly faded.  But the cabbages soldiered on, gathering strength in the cooler days, and surviving even the few frosts our mild winter brought.  Their sturdy purple and green leaves brought color to the drabbest day, but as the heat of summer months continued, they shot up on stalks that began to resemble some prehistoric lizard.  It was time to pull them up, but I noticed a few tiny shoots near the base that looked like a little mustache, so I cut them off there instead.  I think they are growing again, just like the lizards that loose their tails!

Oh yes, the cabbages went to church on Sunday instead of the compost heap.  We used them with branches of herbs for centerpieces at a salad lunch after services.

Fence Corners

Some people, passing, look at fence corners

And see weeds and briars in the angle of space

Where the plow seemed to miss its furrowing.

They see wild plum and sassafras growing in crowded fashion,

They see uncut grass and elderberry flaunting a lacy bloom.

They see only weeds and grass and briars,

And feel, out loud,

That elderberries have no reason to grown on a farm;

And they feel, still louder, that a farmer is shiftless

Who lets his corners run riot with weeds and grass and briars.

 

They do not see the nest, well hidden, with the five small eggs,

Not the swift brown wings that flash out and in,  out and in,

Until five yellow mouths open wide for food;

Nor the rabbit, grateful to sedge for is sheltering wisp,

Nor the lizard that suns on the rail in wait for a fly.

They do not know that birds watch each berry’s turning.

They do not see, nor understand, how much of the drama of life

 Is lived in fence corners. 

 

They did not see the ploughman’s hand, in spring,

Rough with the weather and hard from toil,

Skillfully guiding the team in a wide circle to miss the corner.

They did not observe his expectant looks while hoeing or reaping,

Nor sense the glow that welled from his heart

As the rustle of grass revealed small stirrings of life in the tangle of growth.

 

In the rush of their journey there is not enough time to see with their eyes

Nor feel with their hearts, the ultimate growth of the soul of a man

Who knows it is good for a farmer to share a small corner of field with his friends.

While passing, they see only weeds and grass and briars.

                                                 ~author unknown

This was given to me in 1957  by Doris Nutt, who knew the value of small things and small girls in corners.

Spending days together recently, my six year old granddaughter Skye and I walked and talked a path of awe and wonder.  Several mornings in a row found us on a trail around a small lake in our neighborhood.  The place on that route we visit most often is well loved by another granddaughter,  Maddie.  She is only three but she asks me about this place when we have telephone conversations because I took her there on one of our first walks together.  We call it the Secret Place.   Last  week, the three of us had a conference call from this location!  Skye called Maddie from my cell phone and told her she was in the Secret Place and wished she were there.  Maddie asked questions and planned for when she would be there  too.

This spot is only a small square of paving stones where two garden benches sit facing each other, but it is arbored by luxuriant evergreen wisteria and bookended by crepe myrtles .  One open side faces the walking trail.  The other side opens out to the lake.  When we enter this shaded, hidden spot and look out across the glistening ripples of water, our view is framed by feathery fronds of wisteria leaves and knarled vine.  Sometimes we see ducks land and take off on the water,   a turtle head bob up, or spots where fish make widening circles on the lake surface .  It is an enchanted spot, a place of cool quiet.   Skye told me when something is so beautiful it makes you want to whisper.  Maddie  must have felt the same, the last time we were there.  She whispered. 

One of the subjects of whispering last week was the tight clusters of blossom that had begun to show at the tips of the wisteria branches.   When we first noticed them, they looked like tiny sprays of green peppercorns.  The next day they had swelled and within the next two days, the earliest little berries were just beginning to split and show promise of the purple inside.  We whispered what they would soon look like:  clusters of fairy size royal robes hanging like grapes, soon to be joined by more and more until our Secret Place would be dripping with deep purple, draped in beauty.

Skye is not here this week.  I walked alone yesterday on the path by the lake and started to smile when our treasured spot came into sight. As I drew near, I fleetingly registered some difference in the foliage, but only after I went inside and sat down, thinking about the little girls and our pleasure in visiting this nook,  did  I frown and take in my breath.  I looked for the several budding clusters of flowers we had tracked for progress of bloom.  There were none.  Then I saw the amputated stubs of branch and vine,  the telltale withered leaf clusters on the ground.   I understood that the crew that keeps our neighborhood mowed and trimmed  had vigorously pruned  the vines.  Tears welled up as I realized the  precious  jewels in our treasure box had been chopped off and discarded. 

I know pruning is necessary.  At times branches must be sacrificed for the health of a growing thing.  My sadness is for the undeniable fact that we may not know whether something we so easily dispose of has brought joy and beauty for another.  By what do we measure the dispensable?  What nest in fence corners, what frame for someone else’s view do I damage?  In the garden of my soul, do I trim with care?

 

 

 

Inhabiting Our Lives

 Let us remember that in the end we go to poetry for one reason, so that we might more fully inhabit our lives and the world in which we live them, and that if we more fully inhabit these things, we might be less apt to destroy both.   

Christian Wiman, as quoted in Poetry Magazine

Sweet Dreams

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Sweet dreams, my mother would tell me during good night hugs.

What should I dream about?  I always asked, and she always answered.

 How tired she must have been,  answering all day questions.

She would pause ,  then tell me things that were very practical, because she was.

Dream about cinnamon toast for breakfast.  Dream about wearing your new dress.

Dream about school tomorrow. 

Somehow, it was enough.  Following the ritual Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep prayer,  tucked into line dried sheets that smelled of sunshine and grass,  I closed my eyes and the ordinary everyday thoughts powdered with dream dust soothed  and satisfied.

What will you dream about, sweet girl?

 You look like a beautiful fairy child sleeping.

Baking chocolate chip cookies from scratch and licking the spoon?  

Picking strawberries and finding Easter eggs?

Paw pats from kittens?

Dream about cinnamon toast.

Dream about your new dress.

Dream about school. 

It is, after all, the ordinary from which the best dreams come.

And, having dreamed, what extraordinary tomorrows you will have.

Eden on My Mind

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 With Eden on my mind, I walk in the garden.

A kitchen garden growing just beyond my back porch is fragrant with herbs and taste tempting vegetables.

But my kitchen garden is inside, too.

Inside or out, it is that which I have been given to tend.

At my sink, in my pantry, with rising bread, pots of soup , and table to share, I tend this garden.

 I stand beneath an arbor where bunches of pink roses tumble around in a whispering  breeze with wisteria fronds.

I weep with awe and wonder and praise for created and Creator.

Then I open the door and go inside where I am arbored by other creation.

Under and around, surrounded in the shelter and sanctuary of books, music,  sweet images  and reminders of family and friends  who are gifts of the Creator chosen and created for me.

Nurturing, caretaking, keeping, all  become the art of tending this garden.

 Time began in a garden.

Still, my time is in a garden.

Photo JDP